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4 Tips For Writing Your Own Vows At Your Wedding

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If you are like many people, you consider your wedding ceremony to be one of the most important events of your life. To make that event even more special, you may want to write your own vows. Here are some tips for making that happen in a way that best suits you and your loved one.

Start Working on Them Early

With all the things you have to do for your wedding, it is easy for your vows to be at the bottom of your to-do list. However, the longer you wait to write your vows, the more pressure you are likely to feel. Jot down a few thoughts as early as you can, and work on them every few days until you have settled on specific things you want to say.

Set Ground Rules with Your Partner

If you and your partner are working on personal vows, your remarks will be personal and reflect each of you. However, you might want to have a talk about some ground rules. For instance, do you want to do humorous vows or keep it serious? Will you include personal stories or not? How many promises will you mention? Do you want to see each other's vows before the ceremony? Knowing the answers to these questions can ensure that you are both in sync for the big event.

Keep Your Wedding Guests in Mind

While your vows will be said to the person you are marrying, remember that your friends and family will be there as well. Avoid off-color statements and stories that are deeply personal. You don't want to embarrass your partner, nor do you want your guests to feel completely left out of the moment.

Avoid Taking Too Long

There is no way you can say everything you want to say about your partner in just a few words. Therefore, try to avoid vows that go on too long. Keep the length down to a few minutes.  

Use the tips above to write wonderful wedding vows that can be shared with your family and friends on the day of your wedding. When you've finally settled on what you want to say, make sure you create a legible, neat copy for yourself on index cards. That way, you'll have no trouble reading what you've written and you won't have to pull out a ratty piece of notebook paper to read from while you are standing in a bridal gown or tuxedo. Work closely with your officiant to ensure that the rest of your wedding ceremony goes smoothly and reflects how you and your partner feel about each other. For more information about creating the perfect ceremony, contact an organization like Walton Memorial United Church.