If your loved one has passed away, you want to make sure that they receive the respect they deserved. If your loved one was Jewish, this respect includes the recitation of the Kaddish. The Kaddish is a mourners prayer that is recited after the passing of a loved one. If you are not of the Jewish faith, you may not know how to ensure that your loved one receives the honor of the Kaddish mourners prayer. Here are four tips to help you prepare for the service.
Contact a Local Synagogue
If your loved one was a member of a specific synagogue, you'll want to contact the Rabbi as soon as possible. They'll need to begin making arrangements for your loved one's Kaddish. If your loved one was not active in a synagogue, reach out to a local congregation near you. They can help you begin making the necessary arrangements for your loved one.
Understand the Local Customs
If you're not familiar with the Jewish faith and you didn't actively participate with your loved one, you'll need to make sure that you understand local customs. Each community within the Jewish faith will have different customs and traditions that they follow. While you're preparing for your loved one's Kaddish, take the time to familiarize yourself with your community's local customs and traditions. Not only will this help ensure a successful Kaddish, it will also help you form a bond with the community.
Arrange for Your Minyan
Before a Kaddish can be recited for your loved one, you need to have the proper minyan. The minyan is a group of 10 or more worthy Jewish males who are over the age of thirteen. If you cannot provide for the minyan, you can hire a Kaddish service to provide them for you. You can also talk to the Rabbi at your local synagogue. They can help arrange for your minyan.
Ensure the Proper Recitations
When reciting the Kaddish for your loved one, it's important to note that it's not a one-time recitation. The Kaddish should actually be recited as often as possible after your loved one's passing. Arrange to have the Kaddish recited at least once a month during the first year after the passing of your loved one, and then once a year on the anniversary of their passing. This anniversary is known as the yartzeit. Your Kaddish service can help arrange for your minyan at each recitation.
Contact someone that offers the service, like Kupath Rabbi Meir Baal Hanes, for more information.